Dear Social Media,
How I love what you have given me. A little slice of your social media world that has given me the opportunity to share my love of cooking with a Thermomix.
Had you asked me 3 years ago if I’d be a full time blogger, I would have laughed so hard and said you’re crazy and pass me the chocolate!
Oh wait, I still laugh and ask for chocolate… lol! :)
Social Media, you've connected me with some fabulous cooks, friends and families.
You've let me share the amazing joy of cooking with extraordinary people.
You've let me share in their personal joys and sadnesses too.
Ultimately you've made my life a better place.
But… I'm getting sad Social Media, I'm not finding as much joy in you anymore. :(
For a while I couldn't pin point what it was.
Then I saw it… it was smacking me right in the face!
I had been making excuses for it by thinking;
- people are entitled to their opinion
- people are entitled to freedom of speech.
But it is not that anymore.
It is some people.
Some people are not taking the time to THINK before they comment on a forum, blog post or a social media post!
Words are just SO powerful.
Sadly, there is a belief out there that bloggers are expected to have a thick skin and to be able to handle being rudely criticised.
Lately I have felt sickened by hearing of bloggers wanting to stop blogging because they have been so hurt that it is now all too much for them.
I feel very disappointed when some people don’t appreciate that we have
taken the time to share a piece of ourselves.
- When did it become "if bloggers can't take it then they should get off social media”…?
- When did it become okay to use that phrase?
- When did it become okay to belittle someone; to purposefully degrade someone's skill, ability, attempt, or even for them just sharing something?
I will tell you now that it HAS NOT become okay!!!
It HAS NOT become okay to comment on a recipe and say things like -"it looks awful", or "looks like someone spewed outside a pub".
Instead of thanking us, they've just been rude, ungrateful and be-littling.
Bloggers have taken the time to:
- give it a go,
- to share with you,
- to maybe inspire and help you and your family.
Those hurtful comments just tell us that the hours and hours that we've spent making it ready to post - is worthless!
They’ve called us, our work and our efforts worthless.
How is that helping us to help you?
If you were in my house and sitting at my table being served dinner after watching me cook it - would you really say that to me?
I suspect not.
Social media is great – don’t get me wrong – I enjoy learning, being exposed to different ideas and ways to do things.
But it is NOT a platform for anyone to just type whatever
it is in their head whilst HIDING behind their screen!
This also includes being respectful to other members that use the blog, forum or Face Book group as well.
Please show some respect and courtesy!!!
If you don’t have anything nice to say then please take
your fingers off the keyboard and scroll past!
I thoroughly enjoy what I do. It is hard work, but I enjoy the excitement of sharing a new recipe with you and hearing about your experiences with it.
What I do NOT enjoy is reading comments that are just demeaning and critical!
It takes many, many hours of work to create, test and publish a recipe. Yes, there are some recipes that just don’t photograph well!
I completely understand that but I am sure that whoever is posting has done the best that they can with the knowledge they have!
I suggest if you have a way to make the recipe better please let us know in a constructive manner.
Bloggers are REAL people
who create for YOU
and GENUINELY want your life to be better
and most importantly they have REAL feelings.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say,
then don’t say anything at all!”
I look forward to sharing more recipes with you in the near future… just after I have cleaned the chocolate out of my Thermomix bowl. :)